Porn addiction: The way out
Why!! Why me!!
This is what, many youths, married single and children cry out when they realize that they can’t just stay a day without paying a visit to the grandmasters of their mind.
To better understand the concept of
pornography addiction, we will first of all define it.
pornography addiction, we will first of all define it.
In my own words I will define pornography
addiction as
addiction as
“ A condition whereby an individual has an uncontrollable strong urge (usually psychological) to deal and satisfy his or her
sexual urge by the means of watching a sex stimulating video footage or image
whenever the urge or feeling for sex is felt”
Porn or pornography addiction can also be defined
as a condition in which an individual has an uncontrollable relationship
and urge to pay a visit to explicit sexual materials.
Porn can range from graphic
novels, magazines, videos, books, movies, to any other medium or source in which sexual stimulating acts or images are explicitly shown.
novels, magazines, videos, books, movies, to any other medium or source in which sexual stimulating acts or images are explicitly shown.
Porn addiction is considered a behavioral addiction that is known by a continuous growing compulsion to view a pornographic content or material.
In addition to the use of internet some
various means, such as smart phones and social media cause porn addiction by making available an outlet to view pornography anywhere and at any time.
These outlets allow you to keep and view porn in very high numbers than ever before while leaving very little or no physical evidence of your porn use.
Several studies that have been made estimate that global rates of consumption of porn do range from 50% to 99% of men and 30% to 86% of women.
In addition to the use of internet some
various means, such as smart phones and social media cause porn addiction by making available an outlet to view pornography anywhere and at any time.
These outlets allow you to keep and view porn in very high numbers than ever before while leaving very little or no physical evidence of your porn use.
Several studies that have been made estimate that global rates of consumption of porn do range from 50% to 99% of men and 30% to 86% of women.
Like mind-altering substances, the addiction to porn is due to the relationship between naturally occurring substances in
the brain and porn consumption.
Neurotransmitters can be said to be a substance released in the brain that stimulate feelings of pleasure.
When an individual artificially over stimulates the release of these hormones through the use of alcohol,
sex, drugs, porn, or any other stimulus, the body tends to develop a tolerance and expectation for those chemicals that cannot be met through normal daily activities thus addicted individuals do continue to engage in unhealthy behaviors in order to maintain the “high” that has been artificially achieved.
the brain and porn consumption.
Neurotransmitters can be said to be a substance released in the brain that stimulate feelings of pleasure.
When an individual artificially over stimulates the release of these hormones through the use of alcohol,
sex, drugs, porn, or any other stimulus, the body tends to develop a tolerance and expectation for those chemicals that cannot be met through normal daily activities thus addicted individuals do continue to engage in unhealthy behaviors in order to maintain the “high” that has been artificially achieved.
One major reason porn gets very addictive to most individuals is that it appears to give a space for sexual gratification in which the individual’s relational difficulties are not triggered.
For most users and addicts of porn they refuse to admit to the fact and believe that the view of porn is wrecking their mind. But when carefully observed and studied they tend to exhibit these common
behaviors and have similar feeling towards pornography.
behaviors and have similar feeling towards pornography.
Top reasons porn addicts give themselves and the bitter truth about porn addicton
1. Oh
my God!! This feeling is unmanageable
Many addicts do confess that their
addiction has taken over their minds, bodies, and free will. When they feel the
urge to view pornographic content they believe that they cannot help themselves,
but to just satisfy the request of their grandmaster (porn).
addiction has taken over their minds, bodies, and free will. When they feel the
urge to view pornographic content they believe that they cannot help themselves,
but to just satisfy the request of their grandmaster (porn).
Whether they realize it or not, porn
addicts struggle to place their trust in God, Instead of turning to God for
help, they rather prefer to self-medicate. This constant self-medicating strategies leads to addiction and a life that is totally out of control–unmanageable.
addicts struggle to place their trust in God, Instead of turning to God for
help, they rather prefer to self-medicate. This constant self-medicating strategies leads to addiction and a life that is totally out of control–unmanageable.
2. Porn tends to create a neurochemical
tolerance
Watching pornography triggers several
neurochemical reactions in the brain. This is followed by a high feeling, which
is also followed with an orgasm. This high feeling is also experienced when
using certain drugs, such as cocaine or heroin.
neurochemical reactions in the brain. This is followed by a high feeling, which
is also followed with an orgasm. This high feeling is also experienced when
using certain drugs, such as cocaine or heroin.
3. It is degenerative and progressive.
Over time the want and addiction for
pornography gets worse. As tolerance and dependence for pornographic content grow, the need for it grows. Instead of viewing soft porn he or she needs to view more deviant, hardcore pornography that is violent and can even be illegal.
Instead of spending a few minutes a week viewing pornography, he or
she now tends to be viewing it for several hours every day.
pornography gets worse. As tolerance and dependence for pornographic content grow, the need for it grows. Instead of viewing soft porn he or she needs to view more deviant, hardcore pornography that is violent and can even be illegal.
Instead of spending a few minutes a week viewing pornography, he or
she now tends to be viewing it for several hours every day.
4. I feel very bad today.. I need to do
something about it
Most porn addicts do tend to use the term
“self-medicating.” As an excuse to continuous use of porn. Addicts often use pornography as a “good”
strategy to relieve emotional pain.
Often they don’t even realize the pain is
still there. All they know do believe is that pornography do make them feel
very good and it will be a good thing that they must go back to it over and
over again, afterwards the when they realize the fact that they cannot feel good without the use of pornography causes a deep emotional wound that they are using pornography to heal their emotions.
“self-medicating.” As an excuse to continuous use of porn. Addicts often use pornography as a “good”
strategy to relieve emotional pain.
Often they don’t even realize the pain is
still there. All they know do believe is that pornography do make them feel
very good and it will be a good thing that they must go back to it over and
over again, afterwards the when they realize the fact that they cannot feel good without the use of pornography causes a deep emotional wound that they are using pornography to heal their emotions.
5. I wanna reward myself for work well done
Pornography addicts do justify their
pornography use by viewing it as a reward for work well done. Maybe they have been working hard in their career they discovered some stuff, got promoted or did some good job around the house, they justify their use of pornography as a
reward for “a job well done.”
pornography use by viewing it as a reward for work well done. Maybe they have been working hard in their career they discovered some stuff, got promoted or did some good job around the house, they justify their use of pornography as a
reward for “a job well done.”
PORN
ADDICTION TEST
Some individuals
who watch porn continue to watch it with feelings that they are on the safe
side.
who watch porn continue to watch it with feelings that they are on the safe
side.
They tend to tell themselves that they aren’t addicted so there is no
problem to tackle.
For me if the answers to the questions below is a yes then bear in mind that you are already addicted to pornography and must
do something very fast about it.
Are you unable to stop using porn or stop engaging in the behaviors associated with porn, despite repeated attempts to do
so??
so??
Are you experiencing cravings to view
porn??
porn??
Do you become angry, hostile, or irritable when asked to stop using porn??
Do you you realize that you have spent a large chunk of time due to being absorbed in porn use??
Do you frequently spend more time or money on porn than you initially intended??
Have you made many unsuccessful attempts to limit or stop viewing porn??
Do you spend a significant amount of time viewing porn, thinking about porn, or engaging in activities that will enable
your access to porn??
your access to porn??
Do you require significantly increasing
amount or more explicit porn to gain the same satisfaction similar to the
development of a tolerance??
amount or more explicit porn to gain the same satisfaction similar to the
development of a tolerance??
Do you
keep all or part of your porn use as a secret from loved ones??
keep all or part of your porn use as a secret from loved ones??
Do you Feel as though your living a double or secret life because of porn use??
Do you continue to view porn despite
drastic consequences, such as broken relationships or a job loss??
drastic consequences, such as broken relationships or a job loss??
Do you feel powerless to resist the urge to view porn??
Do you neglect your family, social, or work obligations to view porn??
Do you continue to use porn despite the negative consequences you have experienced??
Do you continue to pass up opportunities,
or consider passing up opportunities, to have more quality time to use or view porn??
or consider passing up opportunities, to have more quality time to use or view porn??
Do you feel anxious, stressed, or irritable if you are unable to access porn??
CONSEQUENCES
OF PORN ADDICTION
Porn addicts do face a lot of mishaps on a daily, weekly and monthly basis due to the vehement consumption of pornography.
The consequences and are listed but are not limited to the points below:
The consequences and are listed but are not limited to the points below:
- Physical injury usually caused by frequent masturbation sexual dysfunction which includes erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation dysfunction with real life sexual partners and an inability to reach orgasm.
- Loss of many minutes, hours, sometimes an entire day, to porn use
- Loss of interest in non-porn activities
such as work, school, socializing, family and exercise
- An inability to form lasting social and
intimate romantic relationships - Disintegration of relationships with
family, friends and romantic partners - Intense feelings of depression, shame and isolation
- Trouble at work or in school (including
reprimands and/or dismissal) related to poor performance, misuse of
company/school equipment and/or public use of porn - Frequent issues with finances
- Legal issues (usually related to illegal
porn use)
PORN
ADDICTION: THE WAY OUT
How to Overcome Porn Addiction?
Many individuals do go through recovery stages to break away from porn addiction. Individual, group, and family therapy as well as a number of other treatment modalities are used in treating porn addiction.
As in the case of most addictions like
pornography addiction “withdrawal” symptoms do occur because the individual has become used to a certain quantity of stimulation that they are no longer experiencing.
pornography addiction “withdrawal” symptoms do occur because the individual has become used to a certain quantity of stimulation that they are no longer experiencing.
Unlike substance dependence, the withdrawal symptoms of pornography addiction are not medically inherently life threatening.
Irritability, difficulty concentrating, relational difficulties,
self-medication with drugs or alcohol, depression, and anxiety are a few.
Irritability, difficulty concentrating, relational difficulties,
self-medication with drugs or alcohol, depression, and anxiety are a few.
On the other hand, porn addicts are at a
very high risk of depression due to the guilt, shame, social isolation, relationship failure, relational disruptions, and other devastating consequences that do come
with the acknowledgement of porn addiction. The potentially resulting
depression, anxiety, and isolation places these individuals at increased risk for self-injurious behaviors, violence, and suicide.
Individuals addicted to pornography often perceive difficulties asking for and seeking out professional
help because they fear the stigma of acknowledging their addiction and related consequences.
They have very high chances of receiving mixed messages from their spiritual community, family, or culture that discourages them from acknowledging the
addiction to porn because it has been labeled as shameful, weak, or evil.
In summary the best way to get away from addiction especially from porn addiction is by eliminating every single source of such stimulants. Try to engage yourself with physical activities and ask God for help cause he is the ultimate
source of help..
source of help..
